How come some good kids go bad as teenagers????

Som earents think that once they get to the age of twelve or so they no longer need discipline and guidance and all of the good work done up until then can be undone.


Of course there are huge changes going on which *can* effect behaviour and attitudes at that age but that too must be taken into account.


They are on the verge of adulthood and are trying new things out but they are still *children* and need parental guidance in order to finally develop into decent adults with good values.How come some good kids go bad as teenagers????
It's quite easy to understand actually.





When children are small they believe everything their parents tell them. They take it all at face value and they prety much don't question too much.


Things like smoking is bad for you, sex before marriage is wrong, and other thngs we teach our children, they believe without much question when they are litle. So it seems as though we have done a good job of raising 'good' children while they are little and so 'blindly' following what we say.





The real test come when they get a little older (usually12 or13) and start to have thoguhts and opinions of their own. Then we see whether we've really done our job well or not. If they've only been doing what you say this whole time and haven't really adapted those morals and values for themseles, chances are they will ditch it as soon as they can. If you have actually instilled those beliefs and morals into them and they have decided for themselves that they really do agree, then the chances ar good that they will stay on the same path that you have brought them to.


From what I have seen the kids who stay 'good' are the kids who com from families that live what they teach.


For example, my kids are being taught that God is essential in a person's life, and having a personal relationship with Him is very important. We aren't just telling our kids this - we're living it. We surround our children with people who believe this way and they can see for themselves that it is real.


Someone else might think that having a college degree is very important and they may wish for their child to go in that direstion. They should live that way themselves, showing their child that it really is as important as they say it is. The best way to keep kids on a 'good' path is to let them see throughout their childhoos that it is real.


Do as I say, not as I do is NOT a good way to raise kids. It never works, and when kids reach the teen years and are becoming more independent, they will likeliy do what you have DONE, not what you have said.How come some good kids go bad as teenagers????
I would say we need to think about who their ';role models'; have been.


I am blessed with five wonderful children. My kids are not perfect neither am I, but they are wonderful. They have the love of church, respect and are good parents ( three of them now have their own kids). I have two daughters at home, one seventeen, one seven, they are good kids. I believe with RULES and responsibilities children will do alright. Of course, they will test you as well, but that is what parenting is all about. I now have three beautiful granddaughters,ages 6, 4 months %26amp; 2 months. Also, two beautiful grandsons, ages 4 and 3. It is a joy to see them all together. Life is too short for arguing, take one step or one day at a time, love each other and thank GOD for all your blessings. I do!





God Bless you and your family..
There are a LOT of reasons.


-how much time do the parents spend with their kids?


-how much TV do parents let them watch?


-what do parents allow them to watch? listen to?


-do they have religion in their life?


-what kind of friends they hang with?


-what limits are placed on their play time?


-what limits areplaced on their money?


-do they have any responsibilities in the house?


-have they been to a doctor regularly?


-a dentist?


-do mom and dad both work to pay for the BMW?


-do the kids have ipods, cell phones?


-genetics?


-do they get what they want? whether or not parents can afford it?


-what kinds of clothes are they allowed to wear? buy?


Pick a reason? Really good question ! Do you think anyone is listening though?
For individual reasons. You'd have to see the world through their eyes to know what went amiss. How did sweet little Anikan Skywalker turn into Darth Vader? Every story is different. At the root of it is nearly always the person's perception of what he or she needs to do to survive.
There are probably more reasons than can be listed but some common ones are





uninvolved parents


too strict parents (kids rebel)


bored kids (not involved in clubs or sports) with nothing to do but find trouble


antisocial kids looking to ';fit in'; and be popular even if it means doing something wrong


hormones make kids think they are invincible or won't get caught





etc etc
im a teenager i was good when i was younger but now im mean and stay in my room all day but if the kid turns to drugs ether his/her friends are bad and there trying to be cool but dont give the kid a big talk because that makes him wana hate u i know
Some go bad because of the traumatic experiences they have had. Some because their environment. Some because of the friends they have. As a parent all you can do is do your best and love the little bastards.
Actually, as being a teen, i see this alot. Good kids turn toward drugs and bad ideas mostly because they try to be just like their friends and impress people. They dont really realize they are ruining their lives in the process.
I don't think that all the stuff teens do should be labled as ';bad.'; We all have our time of searching out who we are and what we want from our lives. I think that you can find common ground for this
i agree with dukygirl not everything that teenagers do should be labeled as bad its just that there changing
They stop listening to everything you say as truth and try to have a mind of their own...
For the majority, it's to fit in.